October 13, 2012 will be Stephen’s and my 29th anniversary as a couple, and the fourth anniversary of our marriage. Seems like yesterday and forever all at once. We’ve both lived with each other longer than we either lived without the other. I started thinking about this today because there were several articles in the paper regarding gay marriage. It continues to be a hot topic, both because it’s an election year, and because President Obama endorsed it.
The article I found most interesting (and the one that prompted this blog on the subject) was regarding prop 8 news. It seems that one of the primary witnesses who testified in favor of Prop 8 (David Blankenhorn) has now changed his mind (because, he says, “I had also hoped that debating gay marriage might help to lead heterosexual America to a broader and more positive recommitment to marriage as an institution. But it hasn’t happened,” Blankenhorn wrote. “If fighting gay marriage was going to help marriage over all, I think we’d have seen some signs of it by now.”).
You can see the entire article here, btw.…
http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Calif-same-sex-marriage-foe-now-endorses-unions-3655908.php?cmpid=emailarticle&cmpid=emailarticle
Anyway.…after I read this, I just kept thinking about how all the gay marriage foes were so convinced that it was going to destroy “traditional” marriage, and how ironic it was that this guy finally realized it would neither hurt nor help “traditional” marriage.
Well, I for one, am proud to say that our marriage did not result in a complete breakdown of civilization, nor did it single handedly destroy “traditional” marriage. Now I think it’s high time the Federal Government (and all the idiots who still don’t get the fact that all we want is fairness and equality) put an end to DOMA, recognize our marriage,and give us all the legal rights that go along with being married. Maybe I’m just emboldened by the progress we’ve already made, and that’s why I’m thinking it could happen, but after all, I never thought I’d see us get as far as we already have in my lifetime. And to all those States who have outlawed Gay Marriage (including my home State of North Carolina), shame on you!